Self-Compassion For Those Without Mothers On Mother’s Day
There are days of the year, where (like many people) I feel the loss of someone or something in my life. I long for gratitude on those days, and wait for the difficult moments to pass to be grateful that I have endured them.
The Power Of Ted
During my teen years, there were some tough days. Being a kid that came from a difficult background, I mostly hid my emotions. I kept a tough face on during school, smiled and laughed in my conversations with girls, and smoked cigarettes at night to dull my senses.
Self-Compassion For The Wish To Solve Other People’s Problems
How many of us need self-compassion for the wish to solve other people’s problems? I would wager a lot of us. High up on our list of hardships is watching someone suffer, and feeling unable to help them. That is why those infomercials work so well.
Self-Compassion For The Hustler
We need self-compassion for the hustler. The hustler is a smooth talking, peer pressure machine that starts with really easy questions and small asks, and works his way up to big questions and big asks. His trick is that he always makes it seem like his pitch is in the service of your well-being.
Never Sacrifice Your Basic Needs For More Marketable Goods And Status
As a Self-Compassion based psychologist, I see a lot of people, who meet their very basic needs (e.g,. food, rest, sleep, connection, family, and exercise) inconsistently to attain material goods or status.
Self-Compassion For Small Talk, And Handling The Hardest Social Question
When faced with tough social questions, we need all the self-compassion we can get. The most difficult question is easily the one that asks for a self-summary: Who are you?
Don’t Give Up The Heart
Years ago, midway through my self-compassion practice, I was inspired by a speech the Dalai Lama gave called, “Never Give Up.”
Living With More Self-Compassion By Differentiating Wishes From Demands
It is actually a pretty common self-compassion theme to find people upset about their wishes not being fulfilled. They wish for things, and feel disappointed in their life prior to knowing about self-compassion, and then they internally do the dance of joy, when they hear that self-compassion involves active wishing.
Self-Compassion For Impending Doom Syndrome
Self-Compassion is not only good for recognizing patterns. It is also good for interrupting them, when necessary. Not too long ago, I saw a man, who thought himself similar to the Biblical character known as Job.
Self-Compassion For Bad Dreams And Bullies From The Past
Recently, someone asked me if self-compassion was retroactive. I found this a puzzling question. To clarify, I asked, “Do you mean, will practicing self-compassion now help you with your earlier experiences?”
Self-Compassion For Selfishness
One of the great values of self-compassion is that it helps us gain a complete understanding of something. It frees us from our subjective perceptions, our desires, our perspectives, our need to be right.
The Self-Compassion Love Letter: Freedom From Blame, Shame, and Names.
From a self-compassion standpoint, most of what we do is to avoid the firing squad of blame, shame, and names. Somewhere, deep down inside, we fear that we are bad, broken, undeserving people, so when our fears or mistakes manifest, we seek distraction through any means necessary:
The Power Of Fun, And A Fun And Effective Self-Compassion Visualization.
One of the problems faced by self-compassion and other tools used to remedy suffering is that people inevitably connect them with suffering. In other words, it is hard to mention self-compassion without people thinking about what they might need self-compassion for.
Self-Compassion For Getting Stuck On Your Ex
If there is a time for self-compassion, it is when you start to think about your ex. The tough thing about dating is that viable partners are spaced so far between each other that it creates a feeling of scarcity, so sometimes we impulsively pick someone new without thinking about whether they are a really good fit, or we toil over the memory of our ex.
Where Do I Fit In? Finding Your Place In Art And The World.
People often wonder whether art imitates life or life imitates art. People are inspired by art to live a certain way, and art has long been inspired by the sadness, excitement, hopes, dreams, and forbidden desires of the time in which it was created.